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Friday, August 26, 2016

Article: Showing up for your Friends

For your Friday I'm leaving  you with a great article: Showing Up: The Single Most Important Thing a Friend Can Do
photo source: the article
We all have days when the weight of our responsibilities is enough to deal with and it’s a challenge to summon the energy to meet one more demand — to show up, even for something like celebrating a friend’s success. But it’s those moments that matter the most. It’s showing up for that kind of stuff that solidifies a friendship
This is something I'm not always good at, but I want to be. I feel pulled in many directions a lot of the time (mostly by my 4 year old, and literally, ha!) - that coupled with my need for alone time, etc...leaves me saying 'no' a lot. But this is something I've been thinking about so much lately. I think that like a lot of people, as I get older, I start to focus on the value of friendships and being there and quality time. Subconsciously, like the article advices, I start to weed out the friends who don't show up because I want to spend my limited time on those who do - on those who think that I'm important as well. Quality is way better than quantity in this case!

I'd love to hear your thoughts as well..

I hope you enjoy the article and it makes you think and become a little bit better of a person. The world and your loved ones and THE FUTURE GENERATION needs you!!!! xxxx

Happy Friday!
rooth said...

You're right, it's so exhausting to show up but means tons to those who count you as a friend. Must summon the energy somehow!

Summer said...

So true... Quality is way better than quantity when it comes to friendships ♥

Matthew Pike said...

I get the thing about alone time, but it does make you feel guity sometimes. As I got into my mid 20s my group of friends got much smaller, but much stronger. Hopefully we get left with the ones that stick around forever.

Buckets & Spades

Amanda said...

I think I am good at showing up, but outside of my sister and husband, I don't feel like I have super deep friendships. I feel like seeing each other often and making time for each other is the only way to get really deep, I guess. I have really good friends I don't get to see all the time, and when we see each other it's like no time has passed, so that's good. BUT it's hard when I have a friend who says, "I will only hang out if you invite me because I never initiate." I think she has been burned too many times that if she doesn't initiate she doesn't get burned, you know? And I like her a lot, so I just know that if I want to see her, I need to call. That gets tiring. But I guess you have to remember that all relationships are worth the effort if they are worth it, right? I mean it's not about tit for tat. It's that we know time is an important resource and we need to be very picky about with whom we share it. I also think it is sooooo silly when some "friends" say, "We should hang out" and never pencil anything in or even call. It's cool. We don't need to hang out, so just say "It was cool to see you. Take care." Don't pretend like you want to see me!



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