Hanging out: with friends or cell phones?

Thursday, September 6, 2012

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I admit that when I'm at a bar or restaurant with my friends or Mark, my cell phone is never very far away if not sitting next to my drink. Sometimes its because someone might be joining us but mostly its for comfort or in case there is a lag in conversation (that moment when one person lights up their phone and then everyone else follows suit) or because I SO NEED to know if someone updated their FB status in the past 2 minutes. JK. I really don't check FB that much. We're all just lucky that my blackberry doesn't display Pinterest very well...(p.s....come on blackberry i love you but time to join 2012)
But I know that I feel guilty when I'm using it and should be focusing on and making the most of my time with my lovely friends and I know that I feel slightly offended when I notice my friends playing games or checking facebook when we're hanging out. I'm so not that boring!
After reading this article it has reminded me that I should make more of an effort at being present and connecting. I think FB can wait.
What are your thoughts?

36 comments:

Claire Kiefer said...

I totally agree. I try to be present and not look at my phone, though it's easy to rely on it too much . . . when I'm at a restaurant or bar and my friend gets up to go to the bathroom, I immediately start looking at Instagram. I don't know if it's a comfort thing, or if we're just so used to being constantly entertained these days, or what. But it's worthwhile to put the cell phones away, for sure!

polkadotpeticoat said...

I agree, I had some friends over to the house for lunch and I think half the time the cell phones were used for entertainment in stead of just good old fashioned visiting......is it a lost art?

The Anonymous said...

i am quite bad for doing that ..... but i am trying to stop

marissa at the boot said...

maybe i'm an oldie, but i could care less about my phone when i'm with people. it goes in my bag and stays there. i think we are getting weirdly conditioned by technology to not ever just "be." we need to be entertained constantly and it's freaky! go to a movie theater and before it starts look around - everyone is on their phones even if they're with someone! maybe i'm just used to italy where it's not like that at all, but i think it's crazy!

Carolina said...

Agreed! And the stress...! We need to chill :)

jeanette from everton terrace said...

I turn my phone off when I'm with friends and so appreciate when they do the same. I can't imagine how I would feel if someone was playing a game when we were together!

Josie said...

The phone goes on silent when I'm with friends and stays in my bag at the table. It drives me nuts when people are constantly checking their phones when I'm trying to talk to them!
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Christianna said...

I agree. It's hard for me to do this, but it's a habit that I want to build! Your friends are there for a reason, so you should hang out with them. But gosh darn it, the internet is so exciting as well!

Xixia said...

Oh, I hate it when people whip out their phone and just start playing with it during a hang out session. I think it's rude and not necessary. But then, whenever people do that, I take my phone out as well. Maybe I'm a follower that way.

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Mary Jo at TrustYourStyle said...

Such a good topic! I do my best to leave the phone in the car when I go to dinner or meet friends because if it's with me, it will be near and I don't have much control.

xo Mary Jo

Marlen said...

oh this is one of my worst pet peeves- i feel slighted when ever someone checks their phone bc i think i'm not interesting them that much at that moment. the way i see it is that you're not with your friends 24/7, so when you do see them you should make a real effort to put away the phone.

Kimia Kline said...

ugh totally agree. im usually pretty good about keeping it tucked away, but every now and again i get the itch to check it!

Mon Joli Paris said...

Great article ! I think friends = no phone, except if you're waiting for some very important phone call ;)

Mat said...

did you hear what those american's are doing? in some restaurants you will recieve a 5/10% discount if you agree to leave your mobile with the staff (safe I'm sure). strong idea which I reckon could catch on.

everyone is guilty of it, it's emails for me

Allison Taylor said...

I just read that article. Yeah, the last thing I'd want is to have a serious conversation with a friend while they're texting on their phone. Thanks for sharing this post, definitely keeps me in check on what my priorities are.

ellie said...

Its a good confession. I definitely don't depend on FB. I do keep my phone off a lot. The battery runs down so fast.

I actually am using my Kindle Fire for reading.

Crystle said...

I usually keep the phone on vibrate/quiet, but still on the table top (I think everyone does).

What's irritating is when the friend you're with won't stop playing with theirs! It kind of cues you to follow suit. Then what's the point of being around each other?

Great discussion, Krystal!

Kristina said...

I think it is quite disrespectful to play with your phone if you are out with friends. I check my phone once a while to see if somebody called, but nothing more. Living so far away from my friends, I would love nothing more to spent quality time with them. Not wasting it with my stupid phone... :) Definetely a no-go!

Selma @ Crazy Little World Of Mine said...

I hate it when my friends hang out with their phones rather than with me. Hello?! Are you there??? Then again, if we're ten people and nine are hanging out with their phones I might as well join them. Might even get more out of them via text, twitter or FB (not that most people I know have twitter or even text often...haha!)

Bella Bheag said...

Phones, as appendages that take precedence over me when in company, drive me to distraction.....!!! Checking messages/updates when with me is (to me) as rude as someone jumping ahead of me in a bus queue; the cyber person, at the point of interruption, seems to be more important than me! Get in line I say!!

Stacey said...

I agree. I always try to leave my phone in my bag, but, if i am really bored...:-)

Pink Ronnie said...

I'm guilty of checking my phone too much when I'm spending time with my family... really need to kick the habit.
Ronnie xo

trishie said...

I think I like to be talking with my friends instead of looking at my phone. That said, there have been number of occasions we're all checking FB at the table to see something someone just posted!

Kristen said...

So guilty of this! I feel so disconnected without it. I do make an effort not to look at it too much in company though.

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rooth said...

I try my damnedest not to be on the phone when friends are around. Sure it puts me out of touch for a bit but I owe them at least my full attention for a few hours

Ann said...

I know its rude sometimes
but I'm also guilty of always looking if there's a new message or something.

Erica said...

I'm actually pretty old school when it comes to my cell phone. I rarely take it out of my purse when I'm out unless I need to make a call.

The thing I've been bad about lately is pulling myself away from the computer. The blog can wait ... especially if I should be taking my pups for a walk or spending time with my husband. I'm still working on that juggle.

Angelica Ng said...

Oh man, when I finally got unlimited texting last year, I was checking my phone non-stop. Now I realize how horrible it was for me to be checking while talking to friends. I have more self-control now, so I feel perfectly fine keeping my phone in my bag when I sit down for lunch with the girls. It's nice to just talk sometimes!

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nancy @ adore to adorn said...

I really try to be present when I'm with my friends. I am a bit old fashioned that way. I still love a hand written note, or a simple phone call (though, ironically, I don't like being on the phone either...). But, a lot of the things that used to be done before is just really thoughtful. Even a human to human conversation. =)

xo,
nancy

Meream said...

But it doesn't help that I don't like talking to actual humans. Hahaha! I kid.
I've download the Pinterest app to my Android. I have, however, stopped myself from using it because I know it will be another time suck. :D

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Andi of My Beautiful Adventures said...

It drives me crazy when my friends are on their cell during our "dates." A pic or a tweet is fine, but then put the phone away!!!

megan lane said...

I most definitely agree! I always keep my phone in my purse when I'm on a date with hubby or with a friend. And hubby knows not to play on his phone when it's date time, or when we go for walks.. Although he needs reminders sometimes :)

Ashley said...

YEP. This is becoming a problem. People are addicted/obsessed with their phones and thus convos are getting more socially awkward. Damn facebook!!

Lauren said...

I dunno, I'm pretty laid back to whatever, but I find that I tend to only use my phone if everyone else is, I never start it.

 

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